b'final mattersFinding the HomeI Already HadA Temporary Move Points us Back HomeJAN OOSTING KAMINSKYL to R: Jan, Talya, Samantha, Ezra, and Asher KaminskyL astyear,myfamilyandIof the face of the Earth and love it. support we receivekeeps our stuff in their garage were all a little bit down inwhileworkisbeingdoneon the dumpsstressed, over- our house. The net clears tree worked,overwhelmed.Itbranches after a hurricane and happens to the best of us.snow after a blizzard. How had We all sat down and decidedI missed this?that it was time for an adventure, andWe coped with that feeling fairly well for a while,I guess as I reflect back on it, I knew how much landed on a move to Florida! We figured we wouldrelying on each other as our community. The childrenfrom friends and loved ones in spend a lot of time in the sun, at the beach, and justquickly made friends and my wife and I worked tire- SOMA, but it took leaving and quickly becoming at being together as a family. We rented out our homelesslyonourbusinessandotherwork.Everythingrisk of falling right through to internalize that the and went down at the end of the school year to setwas just fine, until one day when our child had a seri- net is more important than almost anything. Be-up there, ready to jump into our new routine. ous health situation and we realized that we had NOcausewhenyousuddenlyfeelyourselfhurtling The houses were close together, the yards cleanONE. No one to hold our hands, no one to comeearthward, and you look down and see that familiar and bursting with flowers, the walking paths wellrushing to help with the other children, no one towoven pattern knitted firmly together and ready to marked, the pool refreshingbut where were thebring us the customary lasagna. It took us about fivecatch you, you know in your heart that everything people? In Maplewood, when a new neighbor movesminutes to realize that it was time to go home. Youwill, eventually, be okay. in,thereisbananabreadtobedroppedoffandsee, home is not just in the Hi!s and How are ya?s,Jan Kaminsky is a professor of nursing, a co-owner of there are resources to be shared. There are Facebookbut instead in the very real ways that we hold eachRainbow Health Consulting, and a mother of three groups to join and ones to be warned against. Thereother upphysically, emotionally, and socially. children. She and her wife are 15-year (minus that are stories to be shared about friends who might beCommunity, true community, is in the social net. shortjaunt)residentsofMaplewood.Youcanfol-a good fit for you, and trains and property taxes toThe net brings us flowers when we have a deathlow their work via social media on improving health be lamented. In this new community, you could bein the family; the net picks up our kids at baseballfor LGBTQ+ folks @rainbowhealthco, and catch all anonymous, which I guess is the point for a lot ofor rehearsal when we are delayed at work. The netfive Kaminskys on Nickelodeons The Crystal Maze folks who head down there. You can simply drop offtexts silly gifs at random times to check in; the netMarch 27.38/ matters magazine / hearth & home 2020'